hello internet
well this is it finally the story of how we met,how i came here and all that happy stuff with a bit of drama mixed in! ;) anyways im basically writing this because every new penpal i get always asks how we met..how i ended up here.. and all that stuff and i never feel like explaining it over and over so from now on they have this entry /link they can always go to,..well here we go sit back,make some coffee enjoy the read *muah*
once upon a time becky was in her castle hehehe errm home, ;) anyways we had just got internet i think i was 15 or 16 so it was like 1996 or something... anyways as soon as we got online finally i automatically wanted to chat but see after being in 5 or 6 chatboxes i thought they were all boring and all horny shitheads talking on the damn things and i just wanted normal chats, well i saw this thing called vpro chatbox with different rooms including a chatty box for english speaking but the main boxes were in dutch but i said aww ..what the hell lets try it!! well i try it and the english room which were also dutch in there and i found out most dutch knew english so i went into the other room and all well needless to say i met tons of people through the box i mean sometimes i speak to the same people on and off through the week there was some that was just regular chatters [IJS] being one of them that was randy!! well to make this long story even shorter from 1996-1998 me and randy just talked on and off sometimes two months without chatting, but anyways finally in 1999 i think at the end of january /february i saw him online again after 4 or 5 months of not seeing him and see chatting those two years before we just chatted friendly and all well this time when we saw eachother it was like wow this chatbox is pretty much dead and all and we both missed all the regular chatters and stuff, well i said u know what im bored u wanna talk on the phone?? [hehehe yea i know crazy] anyways so to make this even shorter again from there on, up to april or so we talk on the phone alllll the time! costing us alot too well through only those calls,letters ,and gifts through the post, our friendship turned into more,finally around may, he came to visit for the first time! it was only for 3 or 4 days or so .but i still spent all the days with him,in his hotel,touring rochester with him,he also met my parents and they loved him,i thought they would freak if they knew i met him off internet,considering that i wanted to go with the story of meeting him through a friend saying that it was her foreign cousin hehehe, anyways it all went over good though specially when randy told my dad he liked computers and guitars they automatically clicked ;) anyways my mom also mentioned to him that he HAD to come to my graduation/b-day at the end of june that next month. and so he did which that month long wait was terrible waiting for him, i knew i was in love but he came back we had such a good time he stayed at my house,we went all around rochester,he was at my graduation and the graduation/b-day party for him, me, and my aunt so it was just nice well the end of that 2 week trip we seriously talked about where this relationship was going, cause see i was already accepted to a college for a four year thing, and he didnt have to much money to keep on coming back and forth well needless to say at the end of this talk we planned for him to move to america for me~!
well between july and the september he came back i decided even if i wanted to go to college i couldnt.. i could not afford it,so i said i would hold it off from there on i looked for my own hosue for me and randy before he would come in september. still had my job was working to save up for a house and for him, anyways that went good, now see in september he finally came and basically his ticket was up to 3 months that time being what he had to get paper work ready to stay in the country, well basically i wont explain in details those 3 months but all i can say was it was STRESSFUL~!! as all hell! it was sooo much more money then i expected that it would cost,and this paper we needed and that paper and this shot and that examination by a doctor, also getting married in a very small thing by a town hall to make it even easier and also cause of the lack of the money well all this had to cost a thousand more then i thought it would for all that immigration stuff, well we just couldnt do it, so now we were married and then he had to go in december see we got married though before i knew all these costs cause i called before i was married to buffalo and one lady told me one cost and the day before we were to go to buffalo i heard something totally different! well all the stress gotten to me, well one morning i woke up with one side of my face paralysed. my mom came over after randy called her they took me too the hospital to find out i had a rare thing called bels palsy where they dont know the exact cause at the time but they said stress can be a big problem basically i had to take a steroid to cure that it cured after a month or so but my god after all that stress from immigration i didnt want to deal with it and to know that i was married and my hubby had to leave the country december 5th sucked! well then thats when we talked about me going to holland then compared to the thousands we had to pay for him to stay i had to pay the tops of maybe 150 dollars to stay in holland, and its not like i could have my husband 1000 miles away,so thats when i had to make the hardest decision of my life of leaving everything i knew and cared about behind by moving here, luckily my parents they were upset but they supported me with my decision which help made it easier but the good bye that was terrible it was the hardest thing i ever had to do i think i cried the first half hour of my flight to washington. anyways needless to say i ended up in holland must of took me like 3 or 4 months to get used to the whole situation and less depressed but still today i have periods of complete home sickness and whats funny is now the whole 3 and half years that i been here i been back to america once and in that time by america i was homesick of holland so basically im in a no win situation.i have two homes now that i equally love just wish i can have the best of two worlds :( well this is my story im sure i missed some things but these were the main points hope u enjoyed. since july 30 2003 we have gotten a divorce, but with all the stuff we shared and years between us , we remain friends, and i also returned home afterwards. ahh how life can make sudden turns! bleh!
love becky